The key for me is to realize that if the car was able to put me in that situation in the first place, I screwed up somewhere. I had a car attempt to merge into me for the first time in a really long time the other morning because I was a little zoned out on my way to work. I didn't get mad at him, I got mad at me for riding in his blind spot long enough and not paying attention to what was in front of *him* to decide if he was going to try to come over.
I noticed that you listed your hi-viz stuff and your headlight--did you think those were responsible for making other vehicles see you in traffic? Do you still think that?